The Facts of Friendship: How 2 Best Friends Turned into Life Friends {Interview}

What would life be without friendship? Tuh, I don’t even want to imagine life as such. Friends make life experiences more enjoyable and relaxed. They are the relationships that help balance life and are needed to help us as humans grow. I’m lucky to have some best friends and some more mature, wiser woman in my life who define what it means to be life friends.

Dr. Adrienne Berry and Mrs. Cecka Rose Green are BFFWWF’s who I was able to meet through my best friend Avery- who happens to be her mother and Godmother.  I met both ladies at a young age and quickly saw the type of friendship that they had and wanted that for me and my girls. It was Screen Shot 2016-04-28 at 8.48.05 AMreal, it was consistent, it was fun, and most importantly it was supportive and in my eyes friendships like such are needed in our community- do you feel me?

I solicited some facts of friendship from these wonderful women to inspire our female friendships! I hope that black and brown woman alike can apply some of Adrienne’s and Cecka’s  facts of friendship to their own friendships and keep them flourishing into life long relationships. 

Enjoy the interview below!

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Relationships: Having Faith to Find Love, Again!

I love you! I love this, I love that!  

Love is one of the most misinformed, misunderstood, misused word to ever exist in this society.  The “now” generation, as I like to call it, categorizes love to only matter if it can be bought or touched, but not felt. Love gets tangled in fear and doubt quite too often because of such stipulations, it’s like living on a verge of being hopeful and faithful. A uncomfortable feeling that one must overcome to actually bask in real love. 


Love is most genuine when it becomes recognizable in one’s life.


In my newest experience in love, one thing I know for sure is what love is not. It isn’t fleeting- it’s not something that can easily be evaporated. It’s irreplaceable. One of the reasons why heartbreak is real is due to the fact that commitment is real. Love is hard work, it’s not just a word you say to get what you want for someone, it’s a feeling that is evoke from being with and for that person. To think that couples who’ve been together for 40+ years, literally die, because one can’t live knowing they’ll never spend another day with him/her. Surely spending years of joy, hurt, starting families, career moves, risks, death, fear, doubt, or a moment in time with one other person hurts, especially when you know you’ll  never have them to share such a feeling with again. 

 I mentioned heartbreak over death, because that’s the goal, right? To fully commit and give yourself confidently  to another person is what we as humans seek and once we’ve had it, it’s a feeling that time could never be replaced.

So I said all that to say,  when you find love you’ll know! 

Well, what happens when that love doesn’t exist, you ask?

1.  Love gets tangled into misconstrued feelings and actions– “Well what can you do for me?” “What do I get?” “He brought me this, so he must love me.”

2. Love becomes selfish–  Both people involved are asking each other to be someone for them and that isn’t fair because they are asking for something they themselves can’t reflect. you can’t grow together if you’re only  pointing out the flaws in your partner. Look in the mirror. 

3.  Love becomes untrue-You have to be sure of who you are and know yourself before expecting someone else to be it for you. Bring something to the table.

Well, what’s the point of being fulfilled in a growing relationship?

The answer is Faith… For when the time comes for you to walk in life with the one designed for you- you’ll realize them. Because, heart breaks over broken hearts is not the end goal, nor is being misinformed, misunderstood, or misused in the way we weren’t  intended to love. 

{ Mark 11:22-24 }  

{22} “Have faith in God,” Jesus answered. {23} “Truly I tell you, if anyone says to this mountain, ‘Go, throw yourself into the sea,’ and does not doubt in their heart but believes that what they say will happen, it will be done for them. {24} Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask for in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours.”


If you have faith in Jesus, know that whatever you’ve been praying for God has been preparing you for and that one day that heart ache you once felt will never be felt again. Because unlike the lust you once knew, God will show and will continue to show you real, unconditionally love. 

Don’t let your mister mister, keep you from your Mr. 

XOXO,

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Communicating Your Feelings : Open Discussion!


Have you ever been in a situation where you held your tongue at the wrong time, left the situation and pondered over how it could have went differently? What you should have said and didn’t- yeah me too!

In keeping with the growing pains of my life, I currently realized that my communication style needs to kick rocks, especially when it comes to expressing my feelings at crucial times. Lets face it,  when it comes to owning our feelings we fail to convey why at that very moment. Allowing ourselves to worry over something that could have been settled in one conversation. Besides “adulting” has proven that I can’t keep handling situations in the same manner and expect to resolve anything if I can’t converse with a person effectively. 

                                    NO MATTER WHO THEY ARE! 

Communicating how we feel in tense situations eludes to being vulnerable and no one these days wants to give another person the switch to their feelings. But as you grow older and the stakes become higher you must evolve in knowing that communicating in the most critical times will save, build and restructure relationships. And when you see that you’re doing it all wrong that uncomfortable feeling, which you {WILL} experience will help you to grow. 

Ask yourself two questions:

1. What do you really want?

2.  Would you rather have it out in the open or wrecking your nerves because you let an uncomfortable conversation block you from finding peace and understanding?

Think about it men and women, what or who have you missed out on because you or both of you couldn’t communicate?

Remember this is an open discussion: LETS TALK

XOXO, 
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Roses: Valentine’s Day Edition


I couldn’t resist sending out my written roses to my loved ones this Valentine’s Day. I’ve been blessed with overwhelming support this past year and had to make sure those people knew. I also felt that the rose recipients this time needed the extra love and wanted them to know they’re not alone nor should they go on as if, I’m here for and love YOU!



Whether you’re single or in a relationship I hope you take the time to love yourself and make sure the people you have relationships with know you love them too! 

XOXO,

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