How I Truly Came to Understand the Power of Forgiveness!

Guilt.

Misunderstanding.

Anger.

All 3 lead me to understand the power of forgiveness. I was wrong. What I said was hurtful. I didn’t understand the power of my words. I was mad at myself and the lingering horrible feeling eventually led me to apologize. As a believer, I know that forgiving a person is the right thing to do, I know that God is pleased with me when I do forgive, and I know God has forgiven me plenty of times for my shortcomings, but I never understood the power of forgiveness until it was required from someone I loved in order to rebuild trust.

 

For many, being forgiven is an act that many believers only expect in their private conversations with God. It’s an act of surrendering- surrendering to the grace of God and the ability to keep living knowing that God is still there, but what happens when that transcending spirit isn’t always what we experience in the world? We fail to operate in the essence that God has made us.  Existing in the image of God means being able to forgive and ask for forgiveness when wrong. The two are inseparable. It took me understanding that both forgiving myself and receiving forgiveness from the other person in my situation was needed. I could not expect to live life forgiving people for various reasons without yielding in the act of asking for forgiveness myself.

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Relationships: Having Faith to Find Love, Again!

I love you! I love this, I love that!  

Love is one of the most misinformed, misunderstood, misused word to ever exist in this society.  The “now” generation, as I like to call it, categorizes love to only matter if it can be bought or touched, but not felt. Love gets tangled in fear and doubt quite too often because of such stipulations, it’s like living on a verge of being hopeful and faithful. A uncomfortable feeling that one must overcome to actually bask in real love. 


Love is most genuine when it becomes recognizable in one’s life.


In my newest experience in love, one thing I know for sure is what love is not. It isn’t fleeting- it’s not something that can easily be evaporated. It’s irreplaceable. One of the reasons why heartbreak is real is due to the fact that commitment is real. Love is hard work, it’s not just a word you say to get what you want for someone, it’s a feeling that is evoke from being with and for that person. To think that couples who’ve been together for 40+ years, literally die, because one can’t live knowing they’ll never spend another day with him/her. Surely spending years of joy, hurt, starting families, career moves, risks, death, fear, doubt, or a moment in time with one other person hurts, especially when you know you’ll  never have them to share such a feeling with again. 

 I mentioned heartbreak over death, because that’s the goal, right? To fully commit and give yourself confidently  to another person is what we as humans seek and once we’ve had it, it’s a feeling that time could never be replaced.

So I said all that to say,  when you find love you’ll know! 

Well, what happens when that love doesn’t exist, you ask?

1.  Love gets tangled into misconstrued feelings and actions– “Well what can you do for me?” “What do I get?” “He brought me this, so he must love me.”

2. Love becomes selfish–  Both people involved are asking each other to be someone for them and that isn’t fair because they are asking for something they themselves can’t reflect. you can’t grow together if you’re only  pointing out the flaws in your partner. Look in the mirror. 

3.  Love becomes untrue-You have to be sure of who you are and know yourself before expecting someone else to be it for you. Bring something to the table.

Well, what’s the point of being fulfilled in a growing relationship?

The answer is Faith… For when the time comes for you to walk in life with the one designed for you- you’ll realize them. Because, heart breaks over broken hearts is not the end goal, nor is being misinformed, misunderstood, or misused in the way we weren’t  intended to love. 

{ Mark 11:22-24 }  

{22} “Have faith in God,” Jesus answered. {23} “Truly I tell you, if anyone says to this mountain, ‘Go, throw yourself into the sea,’ and does not doubt in their heart but believes that what they say will happen, it will be done for them. {24} Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask for in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours.”


If you have faith in Jesus, know that whatever you’ve been praying for God has been preparing you for and that one day that heart ache you once felt will never be felt again. Because unlike the lust you once knew, God will show and will continue to show you real, unconditionally love. 

Don’t let your mister mister, keep you from your Mr. 

XOXO,

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Communicating Your Feelings : Open Discussion!


Have you ever been in a situation where you held your tongue at the wrong time, left the situation and pondered over how it could have went differently? What you should have said and didn’t- yeah me too!

In keeping with the growing pains of my life, I currently realized that my communication style needs to kick rocks, especially when it comes to expressing my feelings at crucial times. Lets face it,  when it comes to owning our feelings we fail to convey why at that very moment. Allowing ourselves to worry over something that could have been settled in one conversation. Besides “adulting” has proven that I can’t keep handling situations in the same manner and expect to resolve anything if I can’t converse with a person effectively. 

                                    NO MATTER WHO THEY ARE! 

Communicating how we feel in tense situations eludes to being vulnerable and no one these days wants to give another person the switch to their feelings. But as you grow older and the stakes become higher you must evolve in knowing that communicating in the most critical times will save, build and restructure relationships. And when you see that you’re doing it all wrong that uncomfortable feeling, which you {WILL} experience will help you to grow. 

Ask yourself two questions:

1. What do you really want?

2.  Would you rather have it out in the open or wrecking your nerves because you let an uncomfortable conversation block you from finding peace and understanding?

Think about it men and women, what or who have you missed out on because you or both of you couldn’t communicate?

Remember this is an open discussion: LETS TALK

XOXO, 
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Growing Pains 2.0

Last week was rough. I felt like I lost all of my hope in team work and my effort to go ALL in. From my personal life, professional life, and well, my spiritual life too I felt depleted and defeated.  I needed love, I needed a hug, I needed support. 

I was so heated that and needed an immediate outlet, so I took to Facebook.  I posted the following:

 In a world of so many users, I stretch my hand to thee!! I hate the feeling of feeling depleted, restore me O Lord!”

I wanted to cry, I wanted my mommy, I wanted daddy because there was no way I could say what I really wanted  and walk away feeling any better. I remembered how far I came and looked forward to where I was going, and figured hmm this will have to do.  I just couldn’t allow myself to curse someone out, nor allow people to break my character. 

I received overwhelming comments from family and friends reminding  me that whatever was happening that day  was not my battle. However, my father’s comment hit me the most.  



                              



He was right, I KNEW! And by this coming from the man who introduced life and faith to me I knew at that very moment that I would be ok.Growing older is no joke- things hurt and people will let you down, but you can’t let hurt or people stop you from living. And my father clearly told me who to turn to! I  was looking for a support system in people and not God. ALL it took was this simple reminder from one of the ones that matter to get me back on track.

Some of you may experience this feeling too, and although life has ways of messing with your head you are never alone. Remember Isaiah 41:10-  So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.

 God got us! 

Xoxo,
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What it Means to Have a Role Model

                                
I grew up in a family where we were each other’s backbone! We could talk about each other, but let some outsider have a negative comment about one of the Boones and we were ready to pounce. Having a supportive, faith instilling, cra, ready for whatever family has been my life and I’m proud of it. 

We all know the clique’ question that we all seemed to get asked, “who’s your role model?” and of course the answer would always be a family member right? Well I can truthfully say that my sister, Tarin D. Boone has always been my role model and that’s not solely based on blood, but based on her character and strength throughout life when things didn’t go as planned. 

Webster’s definition of a role model: Ssomeone who another person admires and tries to be like.

                            

             However, in my world when it comes to being a role model, you set the caliber high for the people behind you, because no matter what someone is always watching. And in my case,  sissy knew she couldn’t get away from me. 



From graduating college, to creating her own opportunity in business, to successfully taking something she was passionate about {Natural hair}  and turning it into a business, Tarin Boone is a role model entrepreneur that I can truly say inspired me to “do my own thing”. Since I can remember, my sister has stuck by these words ” I’m never going to work for anyone but myself.” And she has done just that! 

                                          

      


My sissy is the one person I can honestly say knows me better than I know myself; she 
knows when I’m lying; when I’m sad; the emotion I’m expressing when I’m laughing and crying at the same  time; the meaning of all my witty facial expressions, when I’m putting on lipgloss, and the keeper of ALL my childhood secrets. She’s the reason I know life the way I do. I love you sissy, thanks for always modeling life for me. 

Have you told your role model exactly why they’re your role model.? Today would be a good day! 


Tarin currently runs 5 businesses and you can find out more on her at Tarinboone.com

XOXO,

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