Lady Please, Man Listen this is Spiritual Warfare

{Disclaimer: This is not at all an attack on anyone}

What this is, though, is spiritual warfare and a call to getting our spiritual lives on the right path. We are all in this together and I get it- you’re young having fun, meeting new people and living life on your own terms, but how do you feel? Are the things or people you are choosing to engage in or be around making you happy? What has your attention? All questions that I had to ask myself in order to get my spiritual priorities in check.

And let me just say, that I am not at all the “Perfect Christian” -and in spite of not having that label- I am Christian and I have always known Jesus! So I knew when I wasn’t in communion with him because my spirit became uncomfortable . Whether it was people, attention (or the lack there of) , actions, or thoughts the separation was noticeable, and Jesus is just one thing I’ll never be satisfied without, so some things had to change.

My environment for one had to change, so did my relationships, and my focus. I wasn’t interested in being in clubs to have a good time, I stopped answering phone calls and texts from people who I was just stomaching   and started focusing on my spirit and vision.

 Below I’ve listed 5 techniques I’m using to come and maintain spiritually fit.

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Relationships 1o1: 4 Tips for When the Honeymoon Phase is Over


Now, I’m no relationship expert, however, seeing as though I’m passionate and intentional about my relationships with people I  think I have some pretty good advice on this here topic and possibly on my way to being one :).

As a fairly new committed girlfriend, I must say, it’s not for the faint of heart- the state of “being” in love is hard work. When all the newness wears off and the honeymoon phase is over and you become frustrated by the smallest things, yet your love for that person is still burning consider using theses tips.  These 4 things have caught my heart, mind, and mouth from negative thoughts and words and kept me focused on the connection of love to the person and relationship when things have gotten real.

4 Tips for When the Honeymoon Phase is Over

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The Benefit of Speaking to the Right Stranger

Strangers: How Many Do you Know?


The cliche statements of, “don’t talk to strangers” and “stranger danger”  that every child hears growing up served no purpose for me on Monday night.  While I was traveling back to Brooklyn from one of my most annoying errands ever in the City {going to Wells Fargo} because for some reason Brooklynders don’t need a Wells Fargo, I met a man.


Now, I know what you all are thinking and no it’s not that! When I finally found a seat on the L train, this man dressed in a over-sized black suit decided to stand right in front of me and continued to read his newspaper.  I didn’t really pay him any mind,  yet his first line of communication to me was “you’re beautiful.” of course I replied back with a thank you, short smile, and very short eye contact, but it didn’t stop there. The man began sharing his life. His grandfather was a preacher and he wanted to be just like him; his grandfather dressed well and he wanted that too; he was attending seminary school in NYC and that’s when I KNEW he was placed in front of me on the train for a reason. Another confirmation over the purpose of my life. 


I’ve been running from my calling for a while now, for reasons that are mixed with self-doubt, apprehension, and fear of living a lonely life.  All inflicting thoughts that God has been patiently waiting for me to over come, and has shown me that just as he brought Stanley ( train man) in my life, he’ll bring others and I won’t be lonely. As humans, we are quick to dismiss people and take interactions lightly, yet I learned a valuable lesson that by listening and connecting with people you may just find peace with something. We are all on a journey and will encounter many different people- who’s to say that a stranger is to always be avoided?

Walk in your purpose and don’t be quick to dismiss people!


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Relationships: Having Faith to Find Love, Again!

I love you! I love this, I love that!  

Love is one of the most misinformed, misunderstood, misused word to ever exist in this society.  The “now” generation, as I like to call it, categorizes love to only matter if it can be bought or touched, but not felt. Love gets tangled in fear and doubt quite too often because of such stipulations, it’s like living on a verge of being hopeful and faithful. A uncomfortable feeling that one must overcome to actually bask in real love. 

Love is most genuine when it becomes recognizable in one’s life.

In my newest experience in love, one thing I know for sure is what love is not. It isn’t fleeting- it’s not something that can easily be evaporated. It’s irreplaceable. One of the reasons why heartbreak is real is due to the fact that commitment is real. Love is hard work, it’s not just a word you say to get what you want for someone, it’s a feeling that is evoke from being with and for that person. To think that couples who’ve been together for 40+ years, literally die, because one can’t live knowing they’ll never spend another day with him/her. Surely spending years of joy, hurt, starting families, career moves, risks, death, fear, doubt, or a moment in time with one other person hurts, especially when you know you’ll  never have them to share such a feeling with again. 

 I mentioned heartbreak over death, because that’s the goal, right? To fully commit and give yourself confidently  to another person is what we as humans seek and once we’ve had it, it’s a feeling that time could never be replaced.

So I said all that to say,  when you find love you’ll know! 

Well, what happens when that love doesn’t exist, you ask?

1.  Love gets tangled into misconstrued feelings and actions– “Well what can you do for me?” “What do I get?” “He brought me this, so he must love me.”

2. Love becomes selfish–  Both people involved are asking each other to be someone for them and that isn’t fair because they are asking for something they themselves can’t reflect. you can’t grow together if you’re only  pointing out the flaws in your partner. Look in the mirror. 

3.  Love becomes untrue-You have to be sure of who you are and know yourself before expecting someone else to be it for you. Bring something to the table.

Well, what’s the point of being fulfilled in a growing relationship?

The answer is Faith… For when the time comes for you to walk in life with the one designed for you- you’ll realize them. Because, heart breaks over broken hearts is not the end goal, nor is being misinformed, misunderstood, or misused in the way we weren’t  intended to love. 

{ Mark 11:22-24 }  

{22} “Have faith in God,” Jesus answered. {23} “Truly I tell you, if anyone says to this mountain, ‘Go, throw yourself into the sea,’ and does not doubt in their heart but believes that what they say will happen, it will be done for them. {24} Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask for in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours.”

If you have faith in Jesus, know that whatever you’ve been praying for God has been preparing you for and that one day that heart ache you once felt will never be felt again. Because unlike the lust you once knew, God will show and will continue to show you real, unconditionally love. 

Don’t let your mister mister, keep you from your Mr. 


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Righteousness V. Right Now

Hi Honeys, first let me apologize for the hiatus and the lack of posting. The month of May was quite hectic for me- June too, I suppose. It was packed with traveling, moving, and EOY trips for work, however, I’m back and fully ready to spread some light!!

During my recess from B-N-H I did a lot of self-reflection and soul searching, which consisted of many nights of prayer, listening, and conversing with the most spiritual people in my life. I pondered heavily on the value of living righteously vs. living for right now. 

Through all the conversations, interactions, and silent nights- I focused my attention on how living  IN the world and not OF the world takes character and tact, no matter one’s age. Being young is hard, yet not an excuse. Many times I find myself and my peers using our ages as excuses to engage or be vibrant in situations that distract us from living and growing as the people we are destined to be. I often wonder why we allow the distractions to entice us. Yes, we all have fallen short plenty of times and are all sinners, so I know the struggle! But what does it mean to live a righteous life versus a right now life at a point where others around you aren’t interested in the righteous?

I gathered that by living through the grace that has sustained me thus far in life; letting go  of the mastery of sin, and embracing the shaking of my spirit- is to know that God will never change the role of righteousness to fit an “right now” lifestyle, but he will change your heart and mind to fit the life of obedience, by yearning to BE the righteous, heart obeying person God created and who Jesus died for. Remember- HE DID IT ALL! Romans 6 tells us not to let the desires of sinful behavior become sovereign just because it’s the lifestyle we’ve become accustomed to.

Romans 6:12-15:

Therefore do not let sin reign in your mortal body so that you obey its evil desires. Do not offer any part of yourself to sin as an instrument of wickedness, but rather offer yourselves to God as those who have been brought from death to life; and offer every part of yourself to him as an instrument of righteousness. For sin shall no longer be your master, because you are not under the law, but under grace.


 So, I challenge you all to take a deeper look into the life you’re living and listen to your heart. For I know God will sit with you and reveal to you your own heart! It’s a wonderful feeling to know that grace is yours for a reason!


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